No. I don't think that I would be putting my child at risk because of my age. There is always a risk no mtter what the age.
Yes, I realize the chances of my child having Down's Syndrome are much higher at me age.
Yes. I know I have a wonderful, healthy daughter and yes, I do love her with all my heart. Just because I want another child doesn't mean I would love her less. Do people who have a second, third or fourth child love their first born less?
Yes. I know that some people don't even have one child. Does that mean no-one should have a child or want a child?
Yes, I'm being selfish for wanting another child. There are pretty much ONLY selfish reasons for wanting a child. But that is not necessarily a bad thing. WHo says to themselves, "I don't want to give birth to a child but I'll do it anyway to populate my country or because it's my duty!"?
If Kai had lived would you still be saying these stupid things to me about trying to have another child?
Yes, I will be an older parent and the odds of me dying of old age are greater... but I unfortunately know young parents who have died of illness or accident and left young children behind as well. I've learned the hard way that for death age doesn't matter!
Why are people so quick to point out all the bad things about me having another baby? Do they really think it helps? Do they think that all these things haven't already gone through my mind hundreds of times? My healthy baby died for no known reason! Of course I go through everything that might happen... I weigh the pros and cons... but in the end it comes down to, - in ten years, if I didn't try to have another child because of whatever reason (fear of what may happen), would I greatly regret my decision? Yes, I would and my husband agrees as well.
So, please don't ask me questions as if I am naive about having a baby. I am not. Once you have had an infant loss there is no way that you can be naive about pregnancy and childbirth! I actually wish that I could know a little less about all the things that can and do go wrong!
What I need from my friends is support and encouragement. I've already got all the negative stuff in my head! I need my friends to help me keep a balance.
