May 5th was Boy's Day in Japan. I made a koinobori (carp wind sock) and hung it outside. Parents hang a carp outside for each son that they have in hopes that they grow strong, determined and resilient. Even though Kai was stillborn, this is one of the things I was looking forward to doing for him. Hopefully he will enjoy the sight of the koinobori wherever he is.
I think for next year I will try to make a lighter and larger carp using some silk. This one was a bit heavy so it didn't fly very well.
With the death of our baby I have begun to find all sorts of occasions in which we can do some sort of project too help us keep Kai in our lives. I'm hoping to start doing some sort of informal memorial keepsake projects at my studio to help other parents that have lost their infants. I'm not sure what projects to do, or when we should get together but it is important to me to reach out to others in similar situations and help them find something to help them keep their child with them. I had a lot of help and guidance when Kai was still born. MY midwife told me that mementoes would be important as well as creating mementoes and memories in the future. She was SO right.